The one thing that is certain is that 'traditions' can be
started with just one event. The other is that expectations
are progressive. The old saying of 'give an inch...take a
mile'.. has some truth to it! It should be a reminder to you
and your intended/spouse/significant other to manage
expectations before they manage you.
Mazel Tov! Congratulations! We are so thrilled for you! This is great! Welcome to the family!
These are the words everyone hopes to hear when
they introduce their intended to the rest of the family.
Frequently these scenes play out at holiday
gatherings— Thanksgiving seems to be a popular
time to bring someone special home for the first time.
There is the usual round of trying to figure out who
goes with whom, forgetting names a number of times,
having tricks played on you, and, in my case, being
voted on by my husband’s siblings (for the record they
all voted yes).
Ultimately you get to decide with whom, how and
when you wish to share news of your upcoming
marriage. However, be aware that if you do this without any advanced planning you may open yourselves to a lot of heartache and headaches. There are two phases to this process: when you make your initial announcement and later on when you think it is too late for anyone to object—after all you are married and have the expectation that your marriage is old news. You may be surprised when you encounter more resistance. Some of it may come around life cycle events and occur because people simply don’t understand the significance of events. You are going to have to teach them what you need and why.
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